Have you been sweating it out in the gym for your “new physical me?” Or have you been exclusively shopping in the produce aisle for your “new healthy-eater me?” Or maybe you’ve been going to bed a little bit earlier and you are working on being a “new better-rested me.” Whatever your “New Year, New Me” resolutions are, I hope you’re incorporating a “new better-writer me.”

Speaking of the word “me” reminds me that pronouns can be a prickly problem. Language is continuously changing, as is our openness for people of all genders, and this is a good thing. But what does this mean for you as a writer?

Well, I consulted the fiery feminists, and social justice warriors on the Writing Centre staff and on campus. Here’s the deal with pronoun use in writing:

He or She; Him or Her; His or Hers

  • “He or she” has traditionally been used when the word it refers to (called an antecedent) is singular. Unless, of course, the writer is referring to a specific person, and knows the pronoun of that the person.


  • Here’s where things get interesting, and why I’m in this business in the first place. In the past, “they/their/them” has only been used when referring to more than one person.
  • However, now that perceptions and realities of gender are changing, “they/their/them” is considered a more inclusive way to refer to a singular person. I don’t want to make this personal, but look at me. For years, I’ve been Gary, even though I’m a pencil. It’s been confusing, to say the least. I don’t know what the parents were thinking. Obviously, they weren’t thinking. I need to regroup. I need a new me. I need … a new pronoun … or maybe no pronoun at all??


But I digress. This column is about you and your relationship with pronouns, so let’s take a look at the following examples, and see how all of this works:

Using a singular pronoun for a singular antecedent:

“A student left his or her backpack on the bus. Poor him or her!”

Using a plural pronoun for a plural antecedent:

“Some students left their backpacks on the bus. Poor them!”

Using a specific singular pronoun when the gender reference is known:

“Sarah left her backpack on the bus. Poor her!”

Using a plural pronoun when the gender reference is known, or when the gender is unknown, or simply to be inclusive and respectful:

“Sarah left their backpack on the bus. Poor them!”

“A student left their backpack on the bus. Poor them!”

So there you have it. Sure, the hard-core grammarians might be slow to accept such changes, but I mean, hey, we are the new generation! We get to make changes to our language.

Peace out.

G. Graphite